Ani is not her real name – she is too scared to reveal her identity.
On Saturday, while her nine-year-old daughter was playing outside, Puji told Ani she could pick star fruits from a tree in her garden any time, without asking for permission.
Now, Ani has realised that this was Puji’s way to say goodbye.
Dita dropped off his wife and two young daughters at a church in their hometown and drove to another one by himself.
Their two teenage sons took a motorcycle to a third church.
Old friends of Dita have told local newspapers that he had strong religious ideas since a young age and refused to sing the Indonesian anthem.
Ani said her neighbours never talked about their religious views and when she would bring up the topic they would quickly change it.
Things appear to have changed now though, with the turning point being a prison riot at a high-secured jail near Jakarta on May 8.
A group of 156 prisoners, all detained on “terrorism” charges, managed to take guards of the highly-trained anti-terror police hostage and kill five of them.
After a two-day stand off, all of them surrendered but not before they had sent live images to social media accounts linked to the Islamic State of Iraq and the Levant (ISIL, also known as ISIS) group, which claimed responsibility for the siege.
A group calling itself Jemaah Ansharut Daulah (JAD), headed by Aman Abdurahman, pledged allegiance to ISIL in 2014.
The hard approach of arresting people is not enough, we will need to fight their ideology.
Ali Fauzy, Peace Circle foundation head
Abdurahman has been in prison for the majority of the past 12 years. He is currently on trial for planning an attack at a Starbucks coffee outlet in Jakarta from behind bars in 2016.
Ali Fauzy, the youngest brother of two men executed for planning the attacks in Bali 16 years ago, told Al Jazeera that police actions following the prison siege angered many ISIL supporters in Indonesia.
‘Disease of terrorism’
He heads a foundation called Peace Circle, which is running a de-radicalisation programme with 80 former convicts in “terrorism” cases.
Although he said he knew JAD members, Fauzy added that it was difficult for him to reach out to them because of ideological differences – Jemaah Islamiyah used to be linked to al-Qaeda, while JAD is connected to ISIL.
“Most of the old Jemaah Islamiyah members consider ISIL khawarij, meaning their enemy is anyone who does not agree with them. So, what we have seen in the past years is a split between these groups,” said Fauzy.
“The hard approach of arresting people is not enough; we will need to fight their ideology.”